Family Court Ruins Everything
Parental Alienation Start Date
Welcome. My name is @TMDILH on social media, to protect my daughter and my identity. This website is in dedication to my alienated daughter who has been prohibited any and all communication with her father, family and friends since Dec. 26, 2010 by her mother Dolores Alice Dukes, @TMDILH's ex-wife.
Our daughter was stolen away by her mother which makes her guilty of Concept of Court and also alienated are the mother's own family, my family, all extended family, and and all reletives, and and all friends, neighbours, etc who only had to access to our daughter through me. This all started on the day my wife of 20 years separated from me April 18 2005 taking our daughter with her.
This is not the most comfortable topic to discuss and generates many emotions since it involves children, so I built this website out of love not hate. I focus on my daughter and her best interest. To counter the rage and anger associated with parental alienation, divorce and The Family Courts, I offer a solution in #AbolishFamilyCourt which has evolved from enduring over 7 years of increasingly horrific things done by the mother because she can, and it simply is NOT in the best interest of the children.
I am not happy and I don't think our relationship is healthy, an example must be made for Child and I'm concerned she is not getting a good one.
The mother and my wife Dolores Alice Dukes April 18 2005
The Day I Started To Lose My Only Child
The mother and my ex-wife and partner of 20 years is NOW so cold-hearted and incredibly devious for vengeance, retaliation and spite that she can teach a Master Class on Parental Alienation because this has been going on for over 14 years now and is unanimously critisized by everyone involved as being
NOT in the best interest of the child. She didn't start out that way, she learnt it from The Family Court System, the enabler of Parental Alienation, and I prove it indisputably with evidence diligently compiled from years worth of being denied the right to parent my child.
My Daugther Needs Me And This Website
It's already been proven this website has been seen by my daughter and has been seen by thousands with greater worldwide exposure with my Facebook and Twitter accounts and the response is overwhelming positive and supportive. Building this website dedicated to my daughter, with the proof in it's name, means my daughter will be proud to see it and any parent would relate to a father and daughter bond is undeniable in the picture slideshow. We serioiusly are best friends as well as an excellent father daughter team and have endured Parental Alieanation at the hands of the mother for years now.
The Mother Is Erasing Her Past Against Her Daughter's Best Interest
Essentially the mother wants to erase her past, taking our daughter with her against her will. This is an epic story of Extreme Parental Alienation in The Family Court System but there is so much more this website offers, check back for updates daily.
Recorded December 7th, 2007 when @TMDILH's 7 year old daughter secretly called her alienated father at great risk from her mother.
If I had a choice to be with you or mom I would definitely choose you.
@TMDILH daughter secret phone call to her alienated father Dec. 7, 2007
Extreme Parental Alienation Start Date
The motivation behind building this website started with me left powerless to protect my daughter in The Family Courts thus me publicly showing the world what happened to my daughter and her entire family in Family Court.
But the original concept of @TMDILH has since grown to be much more as I've met so many wonderful people who are similarily victims of The Family Court System and are suffering Parental Alienation as well, so I've grown this website to be host to research material of just how horrific The Family Courts can be.
The Mother Is An Extreme Threat To Our Daughter's Life
Everyone closely related to this also believe my daughter is in great danger of her mother, but I personally believe the mother's insatiable desire to end her daughter's relationship with everyone tells me ther mother truly doesn't care about the child and thus capable of taking my daughter's life by murder/suicide. I have plenty of reasons to believe this but my greatest belief comes from a quote the mother said to our daughter Dec. 26, 2010 in giving her 10 year old child an ultimatum:
"have your father take you back home for noon tomorrow or you'll never see your father again"
Dolores Alice Dukes to her 10 year old daughter Dec. 25, 2010
I Never Saw Our Daughter Again
@TMDILH Final Family Court Order Feb. 06 2009
The mother wanted my holiday time of less than a day and a half with our daughter (less than an average weekend) cut down to 24 hours which devastated my daughter. She would've wanted an entire week. All of the chaos with this ultimatum was deliberately executed by the mother without notice, without reason and against the Court Order that she wrote and was used as the catalyst for the mother to enforce Extreme Parental Alienation, which makes the mother again guilty of Contempt of Court.
The "Never" Was Meant To Be Understood As Alive Or Dead
I never saw or heard from my daughter again. No one has. The real Chistmas present Dolores Alice Dukes gave her child and all of us that 2010 Christmas holiday was and still is the wickedness that never stops giving.
I pursued attempting to stay in my daughter's life, but not at the sake of risking her life so I eventually was forced to give up trying. It was the lesser of two evils, the other option was fight the mother in Family Court again, and that didn't work out very well costing me many years and tens of thousands of dollars. I walked away because it was my only real option the mother gave me that protects my child, however I'm positive the mother pointed out how I was NOT in my daughter's life to punctuate the intended result of shaming, bullying, belittling and controlling me, none of which I've evenr been considered guilty of.
If this IS Postpartum, it's endurance is impressive. My wife of 20 years changed when our daughter was born. It was a complete 180 degree shift, everyone who knew saw it as the mother tried to present well but often failed miserably. Close family and friends heard me reaching out for advice for a year and half after the birth... with my biggest concern being no intimacy. None. The night before the birth, we went out to a restaurant and had intimacy which has always been very strong in our partnership. My beautiful wife was very pregnant in our sweet little house and we were both so incredibly happy. I have proof.
It is our position that there are no protection concerns with respect to Michael Dad continuing his access to his daughter Child and that it will only further be a detriment to her if she is continued to be separated from her father.
Darlene Carlson CAS Family Services Worker
CAS Report Defending @TMDILH Against Some Very Serious False Allegations And Offering An Endorsement For My Parenting
It was approximatey 36 hours after the birth of our first and only child that my best friend and wife of 2 decades changed her opinion of me and her view of the world. She hated me and couldn't trust me any more. We did not get along at all, contrary to the night before the birth when we had a romantic dinner together, and all our history together seemed to turn to regret. All of this was immediate and absolutely NONE of this was obvious to the mother. To her, this was her now and as if our past, since high-school, had never existed. She hated me and had no interactions with my friends. She hated her family which absolutely devasted them because they adored her.
Essentially, the person I knew and shared my life with for 2 decades now hated this and that, and I wouldn't have lived with anyone like that EVER. She was very unhappy with nothing seeming to make her happy. Motherhood got even more sour for my wife when our daughter was obviously a daddys girl. When my daughter's first word was dad, something snapped in the mother with her lack of caring now toxic. She now blamed everyone for her unhappiness.
I Believe The Mother Secretly Resented My Father/Daughter Bond
Ultimately, I believe my father/daughter bond ended our marriage AND it enraged the mother SO much to the point of Extreme Parental Alienation and this video did it. The obvious great time my daughter is having, coupled with evidence of a very healthy father/daughter relation and further threatening to the mother is the awesome relationship our daughter has with my new girlfriend, was more than enough of a trigger for the mother and it was merely weeks after this video went public that our daughter was taken away from her father, family and friends.
This was fun to do. My daughter and my girlfriend bonded over their appreciation for the Lord Of The Rings Trilogy that when I jokingly suggested we make a parody video, my daughter obsessed on the idea. We only see each other every other weekend with no communication allowed by the mother but after the 3rd weekend, we finally produced this video of scenes my daughter wrote and co-ordinated with my girlfriend. It was great to see them get along so well, but I'm positive it infuriated the mother enough to commit Contempt of Court and Extreme Parental Alienation soon after this went public.
In 2005, when my wife left me, she was convinved I was her unhappiness, but the mother is no more happy today with proof of her being even more unstable, unpredictable and more of a threat to our daughter and herself..
I Believe The "Never" Meant Dead Or Alive
Since you don't know me, how can you believe a word of this? Because I have years and years of proof, I've kept every scrap of evidence from day one of my separation April 18 2005, displaying it for all the world to see. I have CAS records, Office of the Children's Lawyer Records, School Board Superintendent Interviews, Police Reports, Voice Recordings, hand written documents, all Family Court documents, all Family Court Lawyer documents on both sides, sworn affidavits from family members, even our Real Estate agent had to get involved.
To say this is a nightmare doesn't seem to do it proper justice, and it's in it's 14th year. It's like cancer, everything slowly eroding the core values of life leaving you with nothing but pictures, memories, thoughts of what could have been and what did I do wrong?
There are many victims of The Family Court System and they'll recognize those symptoms. We live in a no-man's land where very few survive and if we do, we're beaten and damaged beyond all recognition. I'm merely a sliver of my former self. I've lost so many friends, family members, relatives and others because of what I've been going through. I'm naturally a proud person and happy person and have achieved a lot in life, but this is my proudest moment, surviving what I've gone through and continue to endure.
My Family Law case number is 835-05 and is available for the public to see unedited, I protect my daughter's name and my name because it's the same as my daugter's. It's not against any law for me to publish the truth, thus this website exists.
Without the mother being as dangerous as she has been, there'd be no need for any of this. There is no slander or need for exageration, in fact, I keep most of my comments out to allow for the overwhelming amount of evidence, literally gigabites of it so too much for free website like Wordpress or Wix. This is hosted on my own personal VPS at an expense because of just how large the website is. Check the Timeline page for a complete history of my divorce as an amazing resource all about the perils of The Family Court System.
On Jan. 8, 2018 My Daughter Secretly Wrote To Me
After 8 Years My Daughter Gets Brave Enough To Contact Her Alienated Dad
This #SheKnowYouDo email was HUGE but I now feared for my daughter's life more than ever.
17 Year Old Alienated Daughter's Secret Email To @TMDILH
#SheKnowsYouDo Secret Email Jan. 8, 2018
#SheKnowsYouDo is the title of my now 17 and a half year old daughter secretly writing to me (under an alias) and answering my website name Tell My Daughter I Love Her: She Knows You Do. P.S. This was sent to me on my ex-wife's 50th birthday which is VERY significant.
My alienated daughter that hasn't been allowed to talk to me since she was 10 writes that she worked up the courage to write me after finding the website, but also goes on to describe her inprisonment. and the dreaded fear of getting caught writing to me that she mentions 3 times, starting and ending the email adding it's significance. As a parent who knows the environment the mother has created for her imprisoned almost adult child, I was incredibly concerned of the Munchausen By Proxy conditions my daughter described, amongst other disturbing elements like the fact she wrote to me in language she would've used at the age of 10.
This could very well be the worst decision of my life, but I guess for all your effort you deserve to know your daughter knows you love her.
@TMDIH daughter's #SheKnowsYouDo secret email her alienated father Jan. 08 2018
The "worst decision of my life" my daughter speaks of is her mother finding out she contacted her father. It could be punishable by death.
The mother Dolores Alice Dukes is clearly guilty of Contempt of Court but MUST be suffering some deep depression to not care about her own child, and thus is a very serious threat to my daughter's life. This is over 13 years of Parental Alienation by the mother, since April 18, 2005. The Police, CAS, The Office of the Children's Lawyer, The School Board and everyone associated with my situation know that I feel this.
I'm not the only one who feels my daugther's life is in danger, the daughter's mother has disowned her entire family for over a decade now and they all believe the worst as well.
I found the website a year ago, I missed the rest of the school year because I couldn't leave the house. I can't prove anything I know about my life is true.
@TMDIH #SheKnowsYouDo daughter's secret email to her alienated father Jan. 08 2018
The "missed the rest of the school year" means the mother kept her locked in her apartment, not attending school, no social media for a 17 year old with no contact or mention of her father in 7 and a half years.
With absolutely no contact allowed, by Police Enforcement Order granted to the mother in Family Court, I have no way of knowing if my daughter is alive and because the massive authority granted to the mother by The Family Courts is SO omnipotent, my daughter can't contact her father, family or friends. My daughter is prohibited or greatly monitored for her internet access out of the mother's paranoia of our daughter communicating to the outside world, so NO active social media at 18!.
Possibly, were (sic) both terrible people who blame others for our own faults. Or you're the only person who really understands how much she can hurt.
@TMDIH #SheKnowsYouDo daughter's secret email to her alienated father Jan. 08 2018
The "how much she can hurt" is referring to her mother and her power of inflicting vicious vengeance. The mother Dolores Alice Dukes has inflicted more damage on her child than anyone.
A Message To My Daughter From @TMDILH
If my daughter ever reads this website again, call me immediately your life is in danger. Call 911 immediately and tell them you're afraid of your mother and they will put a Restraining Order against her to protect you. You can live with me, your Aunt Crystal or Uncle Warren, but you wouldn't want that. lol. We're here for you ANY time and your fears are real about your mother.
A Message To My Daughter's Kidnapper Dolores Alice Dukes: I Forgive You
Let's work together towards co-parenting going forward and I'm willing to forgive you for all the harm you deliberately inflicted on everyone, namely our child.
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